If your child keeps telling you lies

underwoodrar · 08-16-2007, 10:08 PM

My daughter doesn't like to fess up when she's done soemthing. It could be something as little as leaving a toy on the floor to something bigger like hitting me by accident. I don't know what to do. I've explained why it's so important to always tell the truth but I don't seem to be getting through. It's always an excuse or not the whole truth or saying she just didn't do it.

cutiepatootie · 08-16-2007, 11:08 PM

I would set up a situation where sibling or spouse tells me the truth-then reward them for honesty so they can see that it Does pay to be honest! A big hug-a

-something simple so they dont expect big prize each time they tell the truth!

tiffysmom · 08-17-2007, 12:11 PM

Just like cutie said reward her but, also show her consequences. If she lies punish her. By taking away the things she likes most and be consistent. Lock things up and tell her why you are doing it. Tell her that lying is not tolerated at all. Once you keep being consistent she would rethink her ways. I hope this

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Schoofness · 08-17-2007, 12:28 PM

We have problems with this too. We are tell our kids that the truth is the best, ALWAYS! Even if it is hard to tell and you may get in trouble. They have learned through trial and error that if they tell the truth about soemthing, even if they get in trouble, they would get in worse trouble if they lied about the incident first and then told the truth, or worse yet, continued to lie.

lifeisgood · 08-17-2007, 07:53 PM

I was actually going through this with my 11 year old son recently. He was constantly lying about anything and everything, important and not important - didn't matter. It got to the point where I didn't believe anything he said. Because of this, when he is told the truth, he knew that I found it hard to believe.

I told him the story of 'The boy who cried wolf' and it

ed. He realized on his own that the more he lied the less I believed him and started trying very hard to tell the truth. There was a reason he was lying. He didn't feel very good about himself and lied to make himself look better. So we worked on that as well. We worked on improving his self-esteem by telling him over and over how wonderful he was and what he was great at. And it worked!

underwoodrar · 08-17-2007, 08:16 PM

Thanks Ladies,

I guess the thing that gts me the most is when she accidently hits me when we are playing and ends up hurting me, she claims she didn't. Know I know she did because we are the only ones there and I am in a lot of pain. She can see that I'm in pain and still denies it. I tell her I know she didn't mean to do it because we were playing but she needs to be more careful. She'll still tries to say she didn't do it. That's when I get really

. I then have to walk away from her and I actually tell her to get away from me until she can realize what she has done. She then gets

. I also tell her that if she hurts me or anyone else that she needs to say she's

! She has a real hard time with that with me because of the denial thing. She has no problem with other kids though. She really is a well behaved child and is a pleasure to have around but I just don't want this to turn into something bigger as she matures.

Stefaniaking · 08-18-2007, 10:07 PM

That's a tough one, I think the only thing you can do is expalin why lying is wrong and how that can hurt people including the lier. I think the best anyone can do is expalin and definatly if I caught them in the act punishment of taking away privliges.