If My Child Was Offered Alcohol at a Friend's House...
If my child was offered alcohol at a friend's house I would hope that my child would come home & tell me. No matter how I found out, I would first talk to my child & explain why it was very inappropriate for them to be offered the drink & the dangers of drinking. I would hope that from previous talks about the dangers of alcohol & drugs my child would have turned down the drink. After talking to my child I would then call the friend's parents & talk to them about the situation & how disappointed & I was that this happened. Hopefully they would be in agreement & make SURE that this would never happen again. I would also be more aware whenever my child was spending time with that particular friend & encourage them to meet at our house instead of the friend's house from now on.
First I hope my child would call to be picked up or would come straight home if they are able to themselves. Then I hope they will come to their father and I to discuss the situation. Once we have discussed the situation, as a family, we would go to the home, where it was offered, and speak with the parents. I'm sure showing up in my husbands squad car will be enough to make them realize we are serious. If not we will press charges the next time, no questions asked. I would also encourage my child to have their over to our house rather than going to their house. Especially if I don't know the parents.
My kids are well schooled on the dangers of alcohol so I know they would leave and come right home. And, after I got done blowing my lid, I would go over to the house to talk to the adult in charge there calmly. Depending on the answers I receive will then decide if I call the police and make a complaint.
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This would be very ting, but I would first have a talk with my child, then I would make a visit to that ' house, and discuss why this had happened. I would want to find out if the parents' knew about this, and if they did, and allowed it, then my child would not be allowed to visit there anymore.
I am an alcoholic. I stopped drinking when I was 18. I went to AA and have been sober since then. I told my children about it and also the dangers of drinking whenn young. I would find out if the parents were there and if they were. I would report them to the police. Underage drinking is horrible. I know for a fact that is dangerous. I came to my senses after getting hit by a bus, when I was drunk as a skunk and riding a bike, I was 17 and did not know how to ride a bike, I still don't. Imagine if it were a car? No I do not tolerate, adults who offer children liquor. I think they are irresponsible and downright mean. That is how I started drinking, I was offered a slowgin fizz, after that I found out, that gin does not leave a smell and kept getting high until the bike incident, then I went to AA. I would not want any child to go through that hell. I will get off my soapbox now.
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I guess it would depend on who was doing the offering. If it were the child then I would talk with my child about how others sometimes make wrong choices and hope we will go along with that choice to make it seem right. I would also talk about how we don't have to go along with what everyone else is doing. Now if it were the parent, that would be a different story. I probably wouldn't allow my child to go to their house anymore and I wouldn't even bother discussing it with them. Someone who is that irresponsible certainly wouldn't listen to common sense.
This would be very ting, but I would first have a talk with my child, then I would make a visit to that ' house, and discuss why this had happened. I would want to find out if the parents' knew about this, and if they did, and allowed it, then my child would not be allowed to visit there anymore.
Ditto. I know my son is well versed on the dangers and hope he would abstain.
I would speak directly to whomever offerred it to my 4 year old, and let them know that is not acceptable. I would be very concerned about their children, and I would probably not let my child go back there without me.
If I found out I would find out who gave them the alchol, The parents or the kids.. If it was the kids, I would talk to the parents. either way I would comfront the parents. I would want to make sure there was adult supervision next time my child went there..
I would explain it isnt something they really want; got a little with that, a young man that was just starting his senior year was killed at a party last sunday ,my kids were saying it was such a shame, I said yes it is but thats what happenings alot of times when alcohol and drugs are present with people,and alot of times the alcohol makes people change etc. I just hope i got through to them because alcohol and drugs are so with in reach any more .
I wouldn't be happy about it that's for sure, first off I'd contact the parent of who's house this happened at to see if they were aware of it, then if not I'd hope that we both would take action, if they were aware then I'd make it clear that it is not allowed at my house and would forbid my child from being at that person's house.
Well, I guess, I would probably do a little ranting and raving first, but then get the facts and definitley talk to the parents no matter who offered the alcohol and no my child would not be going back there. I would let that friend come here but if it was the friend who offered the alcohol I would keep a very close eye on that child while here.
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I would talk to the parents and depending on what they had to say, I might notify authorities. I would probably not allow my child in their home again. I would talk to my own child and explain my actions.
I am in agreement with everyone! My first reaction would be to storm over and kick a fit, but in the lon run I would calm down and do the right thing......
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If My Child Was Offered Alcohol at a Friend's House...
I was that this happened. Hopefully they would be in agreement & make SURE that this would never happen again. I would also be more aware whenever my child was spending time with that particular friend & encourage them to meet at our house instead of the friend's house from now on.
themselves. Then I hope they will come to their father and I to discuss the situation. Once we have discussed the situation, as a family, we would go to the home, where it was offered, and speak with the parents. I'm sure showing up in my husbands squad car will be enough to make them realize we are serious. If not we will press charges the next time, no questions asked. I would also encourage my child to have their 
with that, a young man that was just starting his senior year was killed at a party last sunday 
,my kids were saying it was such a shame, I said yes it is but thats what happenings alot of times when alcohol and drugs are present with people,and alot of times the alcohol makes people change etc. I just hope i got through to them because alcohol and drugs are so with in reach any more .
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