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Old 02-16-2007, 02:08 PM   #1
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If the teacher wanted to hold your child back to repeat a grade?

If the teacher wanted to hold your child back to repeat a grade and you had had no clue during the year that there had been any problems or issues?
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Old 02-16-2007, 05:46 PM   #2
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I am not sure how to answer this questions because I homeschool, but if this happend and I had no as to a problem during the school year I guess I would get some sort of standarized testing done and evaluate the situation myself. Then go from there.
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Old 02-16-2007, 05:58 PM   #3
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I'm not sure how I would handle this either. Once I found out the information, I think I would request a conference with the teacher to find out exactly what issues were involved for the teacher to come to this conclusion. I would evaluate those finding and then request a conference with the teacher, principal and school counselor to find out if this is the last option open to my child.
I believe that parent and teacher communication should stay open throughout the school year and I have found myself on occasion writing a note to my childrens teacher to find out if there were things going on that I needed to be aware of. I do believe it is the parents responsibility to ensure that their child is learning all that they need to learn during the school year. However, I believe that each and every teacher should be held accountable as well. I think it is is just as much the teachers responsibility as the parents to inform of issues as they arise.

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Old 02-16-2007, 08:56 PM   #4
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I have been through this already. If I had nop clue all yeat long. Than I would not allow my child to be held back. If I was told at the end of the year I would not allow my child to be held back. Now if the teacher or school was to keep me informed through out the year. I would allow my child to be aheld back. But only if I feel the school did everything they could of to my child preform better to begin with.
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Old 02-16-2007, 10:14 PM   #5
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I have been throug this once before with my oldest son. I knew that he would be held back, one thing I learned to to keep in close contact with your child's teacher throughout the year. Don't wait until it is parent-teacher conferance time or it could be too late to your child.

Another thing that can be done if your teacher or you are not too sure if your child should be held back is have a retention test done. This is given by your teacher and also a form for you to fill out at home so the two can be compared. I am about to go through this again just to make sure my son is passing. There are things such as ADD/ADHD that can harm your child in school from getting good grades. Again always check to see how he/she is doing at all times, so you can work on what they are struggling with.
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Old 02-24-2007, 08:12 AM   #6
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Holding my child back

If the teacher wanted to hold my child back another year, it would depend on the circumstance. If I wasn't informed earlier in the school year about my child's progress and it was that bad, I would be very . I would definately set up a conference with the teacher. But then on the other hand, it is also the parent's job to follow the progress of the child. I would find out about other options such as summer school.
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Old 08-16-2007, 06:40 PM   #7
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Hold a student back?

I am a teacher so I am familiar with expectations and curriculum. I would ask to see my child's work in comparison with a child who is going to the next grade. I would like to see expectations of the next grade and test scores. We, as teachers, work very hard to make sure all students succeed and move on to the next grade however, some children are not ready and many parents see this as a message that they are not doing a good job. All children are different and all have different needs. Usually, if a teacher requests your child stay in a grade an extra year, they know what is best for your child.
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Old 08-16-2007, 06:44 PM   #8
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I would be very the teacher had not communicated with me during the year to indicate there was some kind of problem. I think that I would insist on a private tutor provided by the school to catch my child up instead of keeping them behind since the school did not see fit to notify me during the year that there was a problem. I would also kick myself in the butt for not being more involved. I can't imagine not knowing about it during the year.
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If I knew there had been issues during the school year and noticed them myself while working on homework then I would agree. If it were just something the teacher was deciding with no real proof I would request a conference with the teacher, counselor and principle. We didn't deal with an issue of the teacher wanting to hold my child back but we dealt with a teacher that was constantly negative towards our child because she didn't stay focused 100% of the time. However she hardly got into trouble and was an A/B student. My daughter has migrains and this only caused them to be worse which ended up in her missing tons of school, and this was only 2nd grade. In third grade there were mentions of her not focusing now and then but not the extent as in the previous year. The migrains also decreased vastly. We were able to actually work with the teacher and saw that it was more of not wanting to really do what was assigned than it was a condition of any kind. Therefore we have also been able to work with our child. We'll see how 4th grade goes. This was our first week back.
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Old 08-16-2007, 07:07 PM   #10
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If the teacher wanted to hold my child back to repeat a grade

Well, I would totally have to agree with that decision. It's never happened before, and I have a Sophomore, and a Junior. But if it would have ever came up, I would first discuss sending my child to a tutoring place first, so they wouldn't be behind all of their in school. If, that were not an agreeable option, then I guess I would consider holding them back.
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I had the oposite of this situation when my middle child was in middle school. He was having problem after problem in school so I was aware of the problems unlike your situation. My problem was they really did nothing all year to him. We did the PPT thing but they never did was was written. They wanted him to attend summer school. I actually ed at them and said if you couldn't teach him all year what makes you think a few hours during the summer is going to make a difference. I told them they could keep him for another year in the same grade and try again. It was funny because they ended up passing him and he went onto high school the following year. I guess they just wanted to be rid of him. As it turned out we found out at age 16 he was ADHD and bipolar. He went through all those years struggling and being labeled all sorts of things but they realy never found out what the right thing was. He was really a smart kid and ended up dropping out. He later got his GED with high marks)

Find out NOW what your childs problems is and DON'T RELY on just the school system. I can't say I trust their judgement all that much and I've seen them label kids just to meet their quota for federal funding.
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Old 08-16-2007, 11:11 PM   #12
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Talk to gui, principal-and if all else fails-school board and get to heart of the obvious lack of communication on there part!
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Old 08-17-2007, 12:18 PM   #13
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If I had no clue at all thru the year there was a problem I would be I wasn't informed of any problems. I would want a meeting with the principal, current teacher and teacher for next grade to get thier opinion. I believe teachers are aware of what is best academically but I would want to be informed. I will expect good grades from my children when they attend school and will be involved so if thier grades are not a problem then I would not agree and would challenge that teacher's decision but if grades were not up to par I would be asking questions thru out the year so that I am informed.
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Old 08-17-2007, 12:36 PM   #14
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Unhappy Being Held Back?

Well, I would first confront the school about not being informed the entire year of any problems. In this day and age that seems to be very rare. In our small town, the schools are linked on the internet and even the earlier grades, as far down as fourth, you can log in and see your child's progress on the school website. At the beginning of every year each parent is given a login and sets up a password -- this is especially handy if you have more than one child in school -- one login, one password and you can see all of your kids' work and updates are made frequently.

Anyway, if I wasn't informed all year, then I would first confront about that. Then I would find out where the problem areas are and see if there would be something that could be worked out over summer school or do home schooling over the summer months to improve their work. No kid wants to be held back -- the social repercussions can be severe. I would want to try everything in my power to remedy the situation for my child. I would also talk to my child and see how they feel and see if they feel that they are behind in their work or were having trouble in their opinion throughout the year.
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I would talk with my child's pediatrican and make my desicion based on his suggestions -
I would seriously consider it if the teacher felt the child needed additonal time to learn the material - my son should have been held back and i didn't and i am very now - he is 21 and still struggles with his classes in college
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