If your child's teacher was calling your child a name?

MomZone · 02-16-2007, 03:03 PM

What would you do is your child's teacher was calling your child a name? Would it matter the age of the child? Would you contact the teacher first or school or not do anything?

hbixler03 · 02-16-2007, 06:57 PM

I would confront the teacher. Then if nothing changes I would contact the school and ask that my child be removed from the class. Then if I get no response from the school I would get a lawyer because name calling is harassment, and nobody should have to put up with it, not even a child!

Mrs G · 02-16-2007, 07:05 PM

Ok... On this one, I have to step back and find out exactly what kind of name that is being called. My youngest daughter had a teacher that called her "pumpkin" and "snickerdoodle" all the time and I did not have a problem with that. However, if the name was a derogative name or lessened the childs self esteem, or made the child feel uncomfortable, I would have not have a problem talking with the teacher to find out why she feels that it is ok to call a child them kind of names and inform her that I was going to report it to the school board to find out if they (school board members) think that this type of behavior is acceptable from a mentor and role model of our youth.. If I found this to be the case with any child (not just my own), I would handle the situation in the exact same way.

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rusty2rusty · 02-16-2007, 09:54 PM

I have thought about this. First I would talk to the teacher and ask them to stop. I don't feel any name calling would be approiate in the classroom. Not even something sweet. As it might show favortisum and cause other kids to call my child names because of it. I would aslso go to the principal and have a long talk about this teacher and my feelings for coming to him. If nothing was done. Than it would be time to visit the school board.

babygyrl70554 · 02-17-2007, 12:51 PM

I would definately go have a little chat with the teacher. It wouldn't matter how old my child was. Name calling by a teacher is definately not acceptable. If this matter wasn't resolved, I would then take it to the school board.

tiffysmom · 02-17-2007, 10:14 PM

I would request a conference with teacher and principal. No mane calling is tolerated and if she calls her sweet names I hope she is calling everyone else the same way otherwise it will allienate my child from the others because, of favoritism.

MaryEllen · 02-18-2007, 02:29 AM

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Originally Posted by MomZone

What would you do is your child's teacher was calling your child a name? Would it matter the age of the child? Would you contact the teacher first or school or not do anything?

As my child's teacher, I have had to step back to keep from yelling at my child. Sometimes, homeschooling can be frustrating. That's usually the time to call for a "mental heath" day!

I pulled my older child out of school for a similar situation -- no my ds is not a misfit, but he is "special". Now an adult, he is fairly well adjusted -- working, own apartment and gf <Yikes!>

L-rd willing, my younger child will never see the inside of a classroom, unless it's a field trip, until college!

angelkatey · 02-19-2007, 06:18 PM

i would confront the teacher

i know as a volenteer, i'll call kids sweety and such, more cause i don't remember all of their names

keeverman · 08-16-2007, 08:54 PM

I'd be scheduling a conference with her first. If that did no good the principal would be next and I would go up the line till it was handled.

Lisa2004 · 08-16-2007, 10:46 PM

If my child's teacher was calling my child a name, the first thing I would do was contact the teacher herself and find out what is going on, and why she would do something like that to a child. If I did not get the matter resolved, I would then contact the principal of the school and try to resolve the matter by speaking to him/her about the situation. I think this happens more times than we as parents even know about because some children may be frightened to tell a parent in fear that the teacher will be mean to them further in school. Depending on what name the teacher called my child would determine if I went to the school superintendent or not. Hope this is

ful.

cutiepatootie · 08-17-2007, 12:14 AM

Would not trust teacher who calls my child names to do right thing-would report to principal AND school board immediatly-in person and in writting!

JoyJB · 08-17-2007, 09:22 AM

I had an issue like this when my daughter was 10 years old and in the 5th grade. She had a teacher that was very demeaning, publicly critical and humiliating, to the point of even making the boys cry in front of the entire class. The way I handled it was to first talk to the teacher 'privately', during a regular conference. That only made matters worse, making my daughter, a quiet, sensitive girl, a particular target. From there I went to the principal. When that failed, I wrote letters to the school board and superintendant. That got everyone's attention and put this previously 'untouchable' teacher (due to her tenure) on the 'blacklist'. Needless to say we also moved our daughter into the other classroom, but by then the damage was done. My daughter, an Honors student, now 20, a mother and college student, has suffered from depression and social anxiety/school phobia since then. But I am proud to say, from that experience, she has gained strength and confidence, which has helped her in her struggles.

wahmamy · 08-17-2007, 01:14 PM

I would find out what name and in what context. I would question my child to find out what the name was and validate her feelings and then I would let her know I want to talk to her teacher. I would ask my daughter if the teacher will tell me the same explanation my daughter gave me to confirm my daughter was telling me the whole story. Then I would set a meeting with the teacher to discuss. If it is negative name calling I would report to principal and school board immediatlely...that is unacceptable!

nkrupa · 08-17-2007, 07:35 PM

I would comfront the teacher.. We had a teacher call my grand daughter a fool. In fact we had proof, she wrote it in a note home, that she was acting like a fool. We told her she could have said it in another way. Like she was fooling around, or acting up or something.. We also went to the principal. She had a talk with the teacher too. The teacher started to be more careful with her words..

SuziQ211 · 08-17-2007, 08:26 PM

First ask your child what the "name" or word is that the teacher is calling them. If the child is very young it could be an endearment as a previous mother said. But if it is in fact something negative, derogatory or hurtful then you must go to the teacher & talk to them personally first. Hopefully they will admit they were wrong & do more than apologize. If the teacher denies it or act as though it is no big deal, then by all means, go to the principal. The principal "should" take care of this...but if not, I would write a letter to the superintendent and/or school board & see if that gets results. But hopefully it won't go that far. Good luck to you!