vinny_1_3

My husband is not my first daughters biological dad, and we have been married for 3 yaers and still had not adopted my daughter. He uses money as an issue but i am not sure. I wish he would adopt her but dont know how to go about it. im going . Can anyone suggest anything that can ?
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DeeDee

That is a tough one to answer Vanessa. Maybe it just takes time. My oldest son was 8 when I married the second time and he was never adopted by my hubby.
For one reason, I felt he should keep his name until he was old enough to decide on his own if he wanted to change it or not. He is now 35 and had decided long ago to keep his name he was born with.
My hubby was in full agreement to adopt him but it was my choice not to at the time.

I think maybe your hubby may be thinking of this or he just needs time to give it some deep thought if its what he wants to do or not.

I wish you luck, and as long as he treats your daughter well, that will be enough until he comes to a decision. Just dont' push him.

DeeDee

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frazzledmomof2

I r children's names!!!

I was adopted by my step-dad!

Is your DH wanting to adopt her? If so you will have to get an attorney to do this and also you have to get her biological father to give up his rights as her father.

If there is no father listed on the birth certificate then it should be easy to do.

If you have any ?? then feel free to PM me or IM me. Good luck to ya!

Kricket

My brother adopted his step son.....

the biological father has to sign off on all rights...if you know where he is and if he is willing it shouldn't be much of a problem.

You'll have to contact a lawyer and he'll give you the low down.

good luck!

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vinny_1_3

We had a d.n.a. test done with the guy we thought was the father and he turned out not to be. So now my daughter is carring a name of someone w/ no relation. thats one reason i'd like him to adopt her. I am not pushing the issue, i rarely bring it up. He has known he since she was 1 week old. I know he loves her dearly. He does not even treat her different from our other 2 chidren.
Thankyou so much for your replies..
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Tracee

My husband would adobt my children in a min if there father would sign off. My husband is more a father to them then there real father. there real father is nothing but a truble maker and is so childish. He is not a good roll modle for his kids. And are oldest is finding out what kind of person her father really is and its thought her eyes she is seeing it finlly.
she hates to talk to him or even be around him. He makes her the way he acts and talks. The last time she was with him he told her in a few years she could drop out of school and get a job and live where she wants to. She looked at him like your mad and told him she plans on staying in school and going to collage. She told him she was not going to be a drop out like him. OHHHHH was he mad when she said that.
He has ed around all summer with so many girls and are oldest has heard all about it from her and has asked me about it. I am not going to liy to here about her father. The courts want me to candy coat his butt but if my kid ask me and I know the roomers are true then she should know. And she can make up her own mind how she wants to address it to her father.
They live with me and my husband and only see there father in the summer and on some holidays. My poor kiddo's! I feel so bad for them to have to deal with this. what can ya do!?!

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paula4always

The biological father will have to sign off on his parental rights before a step dad can adopt. Also if SD is not ready don't push him or your child.
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jhzcmom

My dh adopted my son about 3 yrs. ago. First if money is the real issue with your dh, call your local legal aid. We paid $30.00 for the whole thing because they have attorneys who will do these things pro-bono, all we paid was the cost of papers.
I had no name on my son's birth certificate for the father either because he just abandoned me when he found out (I was 19), but the attorney advised me to get him to give up his rights because if he didn't he could come back later and contest the adoption. Is the bio-father paying child support? If he won't give up rights scare him by saying "Fine, but you will be paying child support and back child support", that changes their mind real quick!!
We then had to go to the judge's chambers, answer a few questions and it was done. We had a big adoption party for our son afterward.
I can understand how you feel, especially if you have other kids and their last names are different from their sisters. If you have any questions , Im here. I hope this s.

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