mccluskey

I got married 5 months ago and my new husband has a daughter from before. She has either ADD or ADHD I can't remember which it is but I don't have a clue on what it is or how to deal with it. Can someone me. His family is giving me a hard time telling me that I need to give her special attention, like not making her do as much and me doing everything for her. They say she needs that kind of attention b/c of the ADD. I have 3 children of my own from a previous marriage and I can't ignore them. I don't know what to do. Is there a linnk or something that I can go to that will ?

momofbpi

I do I have triplets and my boys have adhd and my daughter has add

The attention deficit hyperactivity disorder

add is attention deficit disorder.

Now my three are on medication for it which s a lot it usually takes an hour to get into there system. Its very hard for them to do stuff around the house but I keep trying to get them to do things. I am going to set up a chore board for them so they have to .

Does your step daughter have more problems because my son Ian has high functioning autism that makes it almost impossible for him to function well at all he has something called asperger syndrome its high functioning so if you were to see him or speak to him you would never know he had a problem . he has trouble functioning with other children in the house and at school he plays a lot on his own he needs to learn how to act properly.

The add makes it hard for them to complete anything once there medication wears off. They cant finish what they started on there own you always have to be right there with them to them finish what they were doing other than that a lot of things get partially done.

Its hard with my son Ian he gets a lot more attention then the other kids which is hard on them but sometimes he just causes so many problems it end up happening that way.

Is your step with other problems besides that and they dont realize it. She shouldnt need all your time and you cant bugg out on your bio kids for your step all the time they will grow to hate her.

Believe me I can sympathize with you because it is a hard thing Im hoping that the chore board works better for us because Im at my wits end with these guys myself.

Goodluck.

crizzo

Hi troubled mom! I am a mom of 4 very young children so I know how things must be for you with your own three and now a new one! I am also a Certified Special Education teacher, Early Intervention Specialist and Reading Specialist (currently on a 2 yr.. maternity leave.

First off - the in-laws, etc... need to be quiet if they are not ing and let you learn about your new daughter and her needs. 2nd - there are many websites for children with special needs (especially ADD/ADHD). 3rd- YOU Got to be kidding that they say you need to do everything for her!! NO - that is just feeding into her behavior!! What she needs is the following: A very structured day - EVERYDAY, Know what is expected of her Everyday - and MOST importantly - follow through by you and your new hubby.

Depending on her age, she would benefit from a behavior chart at home. Visuals are great and so are rewards that are internal in nature - (ex: if she has a "good" day, then she gets to watch her favorite movie, or play on computer, paint, color or have that extra time with mom or dad).

I need more info. to truly you.
Feel free to email me anytime!!

Best Wishes,
Christine Rizzo
triz0209@aol.com
winetwoyou@aol.com

tbirdtimes4

My brother has adha and my mother who took care of it has change his diet and omega 3 will with it It is true that eating heathly will keep it under control.

momofbpi

Yes that was ful too we dont give soda or anything like that they get no juices either milk or water and were careful about junk food also .

We have our kids on a strick sched. but the chores are where we have problems so im hoping the chore board will .

We get up at a certain time we have dinner at a certain time homework right after school and time same time every night and bed time unless summer is the same time all t he time even when were away on vacation,.

Once my kids medication wears off then its hard for what we are saying to make sense so thats why we do the homework right after school we all sit with the kids at the table and them with there homework.

I wish I had more info about working with my son though with asbergers what works well and what doesnt so that he wasnt such a hard person to live with . If anyone has any advice with that than share it with me.

Good luck with your step daughter.

mccluskey

She is on medication for it, and it does . She does really well here until she goes to her aunts house and that is when we can't get anything out of her. She has to have someone stand over her at all times to make sure she completes something like cleaning her room or something like that.

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