hi, new here. this place looks like alot of nice people so i thought i would join! I am married to my highschool sweetheart 13years in june! i have 3 children, 2 boys, and 1 girl.
i wonder if you could answer a question i have- tell me what you qualities do you think a good friend should have, or even friend. it is someone i have know for about 12 years- i am having some issues about our hip and i just want to know if i should even think about it.
JG32 and , it's nice to meet you. Please feel free to post to the introductions section and tell us more about yourself. I'm sure the ladies will Welcome you with open arms! It's really great here.
About Friendship, You did'nt specify the details of what issues you are having with your friend. So I'm not sure, what qualities you are questioning them on. My of Friendship consists of: "Mutual Common Interests, lots of Laughter, Trust is Key, Loyalty/Devotion. A willing to Grow together, Sharing. A ability to sometimes agree to respectfully disagree. A " Live and Let Live" attitude. Also, trying to keep a open mind/heart without a rush to harsh judgement. These are all my s of what makes a good/true "Friend". If you care to Elaborate a little more, maybe I/we can you more with what you're trying to cope with.
Welcome JG32, I hope you like it here. This is a great place with alot of very nice ladies. I have to agree with Summerwaters. I don't know what issues you are dealing with but if you care to post them we will be happy to offer whatever advice we can but ultimitely it will be you decision as to what you do. We are not here to tell you what to do either way. Just to be there for you no matter what, like a true friend!! Good luck and I look forward to getting to know you more.
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kind of a long story- i've know this person for 12 years, i met her 2 years before i got pregnant with my 1st son, she became pregnant the same time and our two oldest children are only 10 days apart. we were very close. i was introduced to her by my husband because he is good with her husband(they are still very good today). and i think it is great. in the past we at first saw each other often, talked on the phone, went out as a family, and sometimes went out alone. it was alot of fun and i felt like i had something else in my life to look forward to. by the time i became pregnant with my 2nd child ( daughter) are talking slowed down, and then we rarely saw each other, and then finally we didnt talk at all. okay, did you get all that? dont mean to bombard you so quickly. years went by (4), i tried to keep in touch, but then to no avail, rejections, etc. i gave up.apparently she did too.at the end of 4 years she became pregnant again, and i saw her at our kids school, just said hi and nothing more. several months later we invited them over to our home and everything seemed okay. so i thought maybe we could try and talk again- we visited her in the hospital when she had her son and wished them congratulations, hugged them etc. i told her that if she ever needs anything that she could let me know, or anybody to talk to call me-i was just opening the door! oh my gosh is this long...... i told you! ive never been real good at short stories.so, sigh, now for jan 2004, we are talking and expressed to her that i would like to have a closer hip and not try to go so long without seeing or talking to each other, she seemed to agree and was very amiable about it. and i thought great! so i started to call her and we do things together, alone and alot as families. But she still does not ever just call to see how i am, or even call back when she says will, i realize that this just may be the way she is, but im having a hard time dealing with it. i think that maybe i will always be a stone throw away. but i just dont know if im willing to have it like that. am i being selfish? i feel like i have been a good friend to her, when we have been . even she thought it was when we would go for long lapses without talking- so do you see my dilemma here? what could i do, tell her how i feel? or try and accept that maybe thats the way she is and if i want to stay -deal with it?
The people I consider my best I hardly ever see. My very best friend I have known since I was 5 years old. We only live about 20 mins from each other. Her parents live right down the street from me but we still go long periods of time without seeing each other. I have kids and she works 2 jobs. Everyone just has busy lives and sometimes you over look that you have got into contact with someone for awhile. I know that she is a good friend because I know if I need her she would be here not because she is here all the time. Does that make sense?
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Wesley (5/21/04)
HI!!! I understand your quandry! I have a very close friend who I cannot see anymore because she lives several states away. We don't even talk on the phone except maybe twice a year. But we do email. We email each other at least once a month but rarely go more than two months without an email.
I have to say, if you are making ALL the effort, then that is not really a hip. It sounds like she is taking advantage of your desire for a friend. I would back off, if it were me. YOU are worthy of a friend who reciprocates right back.
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Girlfriend, seeing that I've given you my qualities for hip. Perhaps you can go over my qualities again, Make a list of what makes a good friend for you. Go over and Rehash in your mind, all you have shared in this hip with her. Pros vs. Cons.
Why her hips has been so valuable to you?
I agree this is a busy world, we live in. People have so many jobs to juggle. Career, Motherhood, being a Wife, and a Social Life, (if time permits.)
Yet I can't but to agree with Lulu. Friendship should be a give and take. So I too, know how you feel. Take some quiet time, make your own list of Pros and Cons. Gives/Takes. Make your own decisions. While you're in quiet contemplation about this, I too would back off for awhile and see what happens on her part. This should "Clear the Air" for you.
If you feel you're far too much of a "Good " with little or no reciprocation, perhaps it's time to "Move On to Greener Pastures"
If you consider her "YOUR BEST FRIEND" remember, what my Mom told me. Your Best Friend, Always has a Best Friend. Think about it, Get Back to Us.
Good Luck to You, Whatever You Do. I'll say a little (er) for you.
Welcome to momzone!! I have to agree with everyone.....hip is a give and take. The only thing is, some people are just not good at giving.
What does your husband say? You said he and the other husband are still ...maybe they've talked about it, or maybe your husband would know if that's just the kind of person she is.
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The loves of my life...Ladell (the best husband anyone could ask for), Ted 22, Bill 21, DJ 18, and our little , Sasha 4
hip and i just want to know if i should even think about it. 
JG32 and 
, it's nice to meet you. Please feel free to post to the introductions section and tell us more about yourself. I'm sure the ladies will Welcome you with open arms! It's really great here.
of Friendship consists of: "Mutual Common Interests, lots of Laughter, Trust is Key, Loyalty/Devotion. A willing to Grow together, Sharing. A ability to sometimes agree to respectfully disagree. A " Live and Let Live" attitude. Also, trying to keep a open mind/heart without a rush to harsh judgement. These are all my .gif "groovy")
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when we would go for long lapses without talking- so do you see my dilemma here? what could i do, tell her how i feel? or try and accept that maybe thats the way she is and if i want to stay 
remember, what my Mom told me. Your Best Friend, Always has a Best Friend. Think about it, Get Back to Us. 
(er) for you.
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