Hi ladies once more here I am to bother you some more. Today was very horrible for me, my day started out okay. Took my daughter to school then came back home and my husband decided to take my son to school which is far away he wanted to finish the grocery and we went. We were okay until noon, he bought a camera for his nephew and one for him. He called Mexico and God know what was talked about, I know he told them that, I was with him. All of a sudden he started to tell me that I did not give him breakfast,that he wanted to eat and I should get up early to feed him and take care of him. Mind you ladies he said to let him . He then went on telling me that, I have never done anything for him and for me to go get a job because, he was not supporting me anymore as if he ever did. That all I know is to spend his money and take advantage of him. He went on to tell me that at 52 I did not amount to anything. To take a good look at my life that it was nothing. I am all these things to him and more, that I did not deserve anything he did for me and if I was going to ask him about his citizenship,that he had already paid me by paying my mother funeral bill and supporting me all these years. That I was nothing. That in the 19 years we have together we don't have anything to show because, I spent all his money. Ladies, I don't have anything in a week all I get is $40. and now that has been cut off. I feel awful. I don't have any family and that is why he takes advantage of me. He said that if I cried it would be worse for me. I did nothing to provoke that, but, my mother-in-law warned me she was going to make her son make my life miserable. Please for me to give me strength because, the only reason I am hanging on is Tiffany she is only 10 and is too small not to have a mother.
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tiffysmom
Domestic Goddess.
I know that God won't give me anything I can't handle.
I just wish he didn't trust me so much. Mother Teresa
Oh Luz, my heart breaks for you. Your husband is in need of desparate . He is listening to his mother too much. He has his own family now and its his responsibility to look after you and your daughter. I so wish we lived closer. If your husband isn't happy there why doesn't he just leave? Then you could be better off and get to live.
Is there anyone you can talk to ? A priest, minister, doctor, a women's shelter or something? Anywhere you can go to talk to someone.
Please don't go thinking the way you are. Things will get better. My ers are with you. Anytime you want to talk, you can email me. Just send me a pm and I will send you my email addy. I will be only too glad to listen to you and if I can.
I am so that you are going through this I just left this same kinda of relationship a year ago (I was married to him 15 yrs). I could say a lot but I won't. I am sending ers and your way.
Listen to me....You are a very special woman and worthy of so much more. Start looking, I know there are programs out there that could you get out of that horrible situation.
Battered Women's Resource Center - Voices of Women Organizing Project PO Box 20181
Greeley Square Station
New York , NY 10001
Phone: (212) 696-1481
Fax: (212) 696-1482
Web: http://www.vowbwrc.org
Email: vowbwrc@aol.com
Domestic Violence Project of the Urban Justice Center
123 William Street 16th Floor
New York, NY 10038
Hotline: (718) 875 - 5062
Phone: (646) 602 -5600
Web: http://www.urbanjustice.org
Provides legal and social services for victims of domestic violence in Brooklyn. They provide representation and legal advocacy; crisis counseling; and empowerment groups. Services are available to survivors of abuse, regardless of income.
You do NOT have to put up with that stuff. You are WAY more valuable, not only to Tiffany and us, but as WHO YOU ARE. Do not let him do that to you. GOD LOVES YOU, HE CARES FOR YOU, HE CREATED YOU. Please, find some . I am here for you, we all are. Love you much.
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Thank you for all the resources is very hard for me because, he knows a lot police officers that think he is the best thing since slice bread. We also know the former Attorney General. Since being with him I don't have the connections that, I had before. He does now and I already had my children taken away because, of the state of my house, he ruins my house so I don't go out. When the children services came my house was in shambles this was and is still being done by him. They took the kids away. I got them back through a law suit that WOW had for battered women and children. My house was in shape for a while because, he was removed from my house. He came back through a court order and he started doing it again. Sometimes is so overwhelming that, I don't know where to start. Then he mocks me about making this house pretty. If I want to do this he says to expensive. He is very cruel. The house is nice now because, people that he knows are coming and he wants to look good. Those places that you gave me are just catches 22 because our "wonderful bully of a mayor" cut funding so if you are not physically injured you are out of luck. I am just looking for a partime job to put money on the side to leave to another state maybe. I don't know anymore.
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tiffysmom
Domestic Goddess.
I know that God won't give me anything I can't handle.
I just wish he didn't trust me so much. Mother Teresa
Luz, your hubby has you right where he wants you and he knows it. DON"T LET HIM DO THIS. There has to be someone or some way you can get out of this soon. I will hard for you.
Today is my birthday and last night he told me plain and simple that his family in Mexico is first and foremost. He says he only has to look out for Tiffany and not anyone else. Then this he got nasty with me and treated me like crap. I did not do anything to provoke this he is so cruel ever since he came back from Mexico. He says that he is going to have the equivalent of a ticket and spending money to go to Mexico at a moment's notice because, his family needs me and deserve more than we do here. For those people that say that I must have someone, I don't no family nothing my parents are dead and the only brother I had died too. I am really alone there is no one here to . So I just keep enduring and hoping that something will come my way. I never harmed anyone in my life and I don't deserve this. I really don't.Please keep ing for me because, I don't see any sense in ing anymore. There is no sense to anything anymore the only person that is keeping me hanging in there is Tiffany she is so young and she loves me so much. Sorry that I sound so depressing on my birthday but, there is nothing to celebrate.
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tiffysmom
Domestic Goddess.
I know that God won't give me anything I can't handle.
I just wish he didn't trust me so much. Mother Teresa
Luz, I know its nothing to celebrate so you say but I want to say Happy Birthday to you anyhow. We do care here you know and we do worry so much about you.
What would happen if you told your hubby to go back to Mexico and stay there because his family need him more than you do? Would he go and stay there? He could still support Tiffany at the same time.
Luz I know you have no family left, but do you know a doctor, priest, minister? How about somewhere you can talk to a social worker? I know you are afraid of having Tiffy taken from you but what if you were to use a tape recorder and tape things your hubby says to you. Get some kind of proof. There has to be an answer for this.
Yes there is reason to keep ing. God does things in His own time and for reasons we don't understand at the time. I know its rough, I have been there. My ers are with you and don't you even think about quitting ing or hoping. Something good is going to come of this. You will be happy again.
Lulu gave you a lot of links and numbers to call. Try one or two of those. Please just have faith. We are all ing for you and will do all we can to you. Please keep checking in with us.
and we went. We were okay until noon, he bought a camera for his nephew and one for him. He called Mexico and God know what was talked about, I know he told them that, I was 
. He then went on telling me that, I have never done anything for him and for me to go get a job because, he was not supporting me anymore as if he ever did. That all I know is to spend his money and take advantage of him. He went on to tell me that at 52 I did not amount to anything. To take a good look at my life that it was nothing. I am all these things to him and more, that I did not deserve anything he did for me and if I was going to ask him about his citizenship,that he had already paid me by paying my mother funeral bill and supporting me all these years. That I was nothing. That in the 19 years we have together we don't have anything to show because, I spent all his money. Ladies, I don't have anything in a week all I get is $40. and now that has been cut off. I feel awful. I don't have any family and that is why he takes advantage of me. He said that if I cried it would be worse for me. I did nothing to provoke that, but, my mother-in-law warned me she was going to make her son make my life miserable. Please 
for me to give me strength because, the only reason I am hanging on is Tiffany she is only 10 and is too small not to have a mother.
. He is listening to his mother too much. He has his own family now and its his responsibility to look after you and your daughter. I so wish we lived closer. If your husband isn't happy there why doesn't he just leave? Then you could be better off and get 
your way. Hang in there.
that you are going through this I just left this same kinda of relationship a year ago (I was married to him 15 yrs). I could say a lot but I won't. I am sending 
find some 
i'm calling you woman!!
he got nasty with me and treated me like crap. I did not do anything to provoke this he is so cruel ever since he came back from Mexico. He says that he is going to have the equivalent of a ticket and spending money to go to Mexico at a moment's notice because, his family needs me and deserve more than we do here. For those people that say that I must have someone, I don't no family nothing my parents are dead and the only brother I had died too. I am really alone there is no one here to 
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