School Principal is a bully

tiffysmom · 10-09-2008, 06:12 PM

I need some serious advice on the fact that my daughter's school principal is a bully. The school won an award as one of the best schools in the Nation and now he sits behind that, to bully parents. My daughter was placed in a inclusion class,this is a class with some special ed students, I wanted to transfer her and I was told no. I called the school district to ask what was an inclusion class and what I was told very different I was supposed to sign papers and have a meeting nothing like that took place. He was mad at me because, he was called on it. Then about a week ago my daughter was attacked by one of her classmates at lunch no one called me, even thou I live next door. I found our about it at 3pm when I went to get her. Then the principal had a conference with all of us and of course my daughter was the culprit because, she pushed her away when the girl cornered her. My daughter according to the rules of the Board of Education of NYC was supposed to let the girl beat her first. My daughter was bruised badly the girl did not have a scratch on her. The girl has been left back twice this girl is supposed to be in the 7th grade. I asked for an incident report and he had a fit. He insulted me and belittled me in front some of his staff and the PA president that hates me because, I question everything according to him. Now I go to the mail box and I get a threatening letter stating about my daughter being late that they will call Children Services if it continues mind you last year she was late also never got a letter like this. She has been late due to her asthma, she stays in the nebulizer and she gets there about 5 to ten minutes late. He is bullying me into not asking for a incident report because that would spoil the fake image he is trying to portray. I hope there is someone here that knows anyone in the NYC Board of Ed. and orients me. My daughter and I are getting harrassed because, I have questions about her education.

DeeDee · 10-09-2008, 07:20 PM

Luz I feel bad for you and your daughter and the way both of you are being treated. I have a big mouth when I am pushed into a corner like that and if it had been me, I would have told him right in front of everyone that I would appreciate him keeping his personal feelings about me to himself and discussing the matter in private instead of in front of the school faculty like he did.

Is there another school that you can maybe transfer your daugther to? I would be looking into that angle too.

Other than that I really don't know what to say,its been years since my kids were in school and as far as I am concerned, its a parents right to ask questions like you did. He had no right to threaten you with the Children's aid like he did. I would hang on to that letter if I were you.

Angela · 10-09-2008, 09:51 PM

I myself have no patience with people like that, my big mouth would have shot off and told his to get his head out of his a**. I myself would go straight to the superintendent's office and put in a formal complaint and bring in the letter and a DR. stating that she had asthma. If your daughter still has those bruises TAKE PICTURES and bring them, I would also send him a certified letter stating that you are to have a incident report in your hands, no later than 14 days of the letter, or your will take it up with his superiors.
P.S. stand your ground and don't give up, be proud and firm. And I am

if this offends you, but darn it walk in there like your going to kick his a**.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Audrey · 10-10-2008, 08:22 AM

I was thinking along the lines of Darlene about moving schools?

My own daughter was in a school that had a distinquished school award. Ug. Those awards are not a good thing.

Please keep us posted.

tiffysmom · 10-11-2008, 04:28 PM

On Wednesday the parent coordinator for the district is going to meet with the principal to discuss my problem. She told me to wait until then and she would try to get all these things resolved in the meantime my daughter is getting bullied by students and teachers in class. A girl that never had a problem since Kindergarten now is a troublemaker and no good all around. I feel so bad but, I have to maintain my ground,I have to teach my daughter to

for her convictions. We are not going to be the most popular people in the school but, I am looking into other schools for next year.

DeeDee · 10-11-2008, 07:29 PM

Good luck Luz and

let us know how things go on Wednesday.

lulu · 10-11-2008, 11:29 PM

I agree with Angela.....go kick butt!!!

Audrey · 10-13-2008, 08:26 AM

There are times when adults are wrong and it's so important that our children recognize that adults can and do make mistakes.

I'm wondering about taking her out of school for the 3 days, Mon, Tues and Wed until this is resolved.

It's so horrible for a child to be bullied by both students and teachers.

tiffysmom · 10-13-2008, 04:02 PM

Well Monday is a holiday and Tuesday she has full band practice and is the only teacher that don't get stupid with her. If I take her out, I already have been warned with children services and she has only been late imagine the absences, I really don't want to cause any excuse for them to mess my daughter's record.