confused

dee421 · 03-09-2007, 11:19 AM

I am have been preoccupied here, with things, and have not been on much nor have I felt well. wednsday my father was placed into the care of Hospice, while sitting in the meeting with him and the doctors and all, listening to them explain what hospice is to my dad his age is 71 yrs old, but he has complications from his diabetics, his prognosis is 6 months, I broke down in tears when I heard these words come out of the doctors mouth. and he is in nursing home that is hour half

for me, so we are moving him back here, as I would like I will be caring for my dad again. His kidney are failing and is is progressively getting bad fast , as he refuses dialysis, his heart would not tolerate it , so he said he is not

to die.
I ask you for

ers that he goes in his

when the time has come without pain.
I need to do alot of things to prepare for this , as I am the one taking care of all the arrangements , lucky me , I say that sarcastically, as my darling siblings will not

here at all
I woke up today with the

of moving him back into my house
I am so confused here
hospice called me this

and said he is doing ok , that he is actually looking good for what is body is going threw
I am not sure what all these numbers mean with his kidney tests
but they aid right now his creatinine bun is 4, 9 and normal is .7 to 1.5 so they said this is high also his bun is 89 and it should be from 5 to 25 which is normal
I am not thinking good right now
I went threw hell when he lived with me and it took a toll on my own health , but just knowing he does not have much time left I am thinking moving him back in here
I must be nuts

Much Love to you all
Diane

Schoofness · 03-09-2007, 11:34 AM

I will be

ing for you and him and your family. I am so

to hear of this. It is very difficult to know that a family member is dying. MY husband's grndma of sorts -- it's his uncle's mom...was dying of cancer and she was under hospice care. She stayed at her own house...her huband ended up dying in his

a month before she did. It was quite

ing, but death does strange things to you. I don't know what to tell you about your decision, excpet that it is your decision. I ahve seen my family ripped apart after my grandma was put into a nursing home -- there are three children and thier father passed away when they were young. None of them are speaking right now. That is hard, because I know that if she knew of that it would make her so sad.

All I can tell you is to do the things for your dad that make you and him feel good.

Good luck in your decision, it is a very difficult situation to be in. I will keep you in my

ers.

dee421 · 03-10-2007, 09:05 AM

I sat and thought long and hard about this, and knowing what I went threw in 2003 until 2005 I decided to have him moved closer to home but into another nursing home , as he will me alot more for me to handle compared to then . so this is my decision

and yes it is hard
he has been threw hell the past few yrs and I always asked why is he here to suffer anymore , but now it is time for him to be pain free from all his ailments
so I can rest assure that i did what I could do for him all this time/
I had lost my stepdad august 2005 and this was harder on me then dealing with my own dad, due to the way he was and is .
I got to see a good side of my real dad so I will keep that fresh in my mind
Diane

DeeDee · 03-12-2007, 10:07 PM

Diane, so

to hear about your Dad. I will

that he passes in his

. You have done all you can for him so you can rest at ease about that. You did take care of him before and he will be well cared for in the home. You did see the good side of your dad also so you will have that to hold onto.
It is very difficult, I have been there. I will keep you in my

ers.