My son is 10. He weighs alot! I won't tell you how much because I promised him I would not ever tell anyone.
I lost 7 pounds, and he gained 5.
I'm trying to be helpful and encouraging. It helps some for him to see that I struggle with a weight problem also.
It really blew him away when he saw that he had gained.
I don't want him to get a complex about it like I did when I was his age. I wasn't even fat, but my one brother always called me names like "jellyroll'.
I need help with knowing what to say and what not to say.
Any ideas out there from anyone???
Personally, talk with him about trying to eat healthier and both of you do it. And take walks together or ask him about what kinds of physical activities he likes to do and do them together.
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Wife to Brad (since 2/7/98)
and working Momma to:
Little Man (Bradley 7/30/98) & Doodlebug (Scotty 5/4/01) offically ttc #3
"Happiness lies for those who , those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives."
First of all tell him and reassure him that you love him no matter what. Sit with him and plan a diet plan for the both of you to follow. Even if is an ounce he lost, celebrate with him. Reward him. I did this with my husband's nephew. He lost 20 lbs and kept it off. He liked Hot Wheels and everytime he lost I bought one for every lb. he lost. They are only a buck and that motivated him to lose more. I don't know what your son likes so you customize a reward plan and of course no food reward. Go out to the playground and play with him do the slide, swing and all that stuff. If he gets tired rest. The only thing no matter what encourage him and if he falls get up and keep trying. Now my husband's nephew is 15 and he says that the girls are looking so he does not want to gain. He plays soccer and loves to dress just like all the other kids. Now the rewards are more expensive he asks for clothes. I don't mind he is doing great and now he is encouraging me in my weight loss. I hope I ed you with this. Keep me posted or PM me anytime.
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Domestic Goddess.
I know that God won't give me anything I can't handle.
I just wish he didn't trust me so much. Mother Teresa
My daughter is 13 and heavy as well just went to the doctor and he advised me and daughter to try the south beach diet which I have already lost 6 lbs we will be joining YMCA this week also.
she likes the of trying south beach that she went to the store with me today and choose tofu, fresh fruit, no bread
I do believe that being loving and hugging alot s him. I do stay firm in that I will not allow him to eat dble or triple cheese burgers with all the trimmings anymore. Nor do I allow him to have three burritos. I didn't realize how much I was allowing him to eat at one time. Prob. because he has picked up those habits from me. I've stopped doing that along time ago, but he continued.
He has started getting active at several points during the day... all on his own!!
He's decided to cut food portions and drink more water and ride the excersise bike once a day.
I do appreciate all the ful hints and advice. Now I just have to remember to not nag him everytime he opens the fridge door.
Do you think I should ask him if he would write down what he eats?
Wonderful s ladies!! I don't think anything I can add will be any better than what has been suggested ... just my own humble opinion. I like the Weight Watchers Points Program. I never feel deprived of food when I follow the program. Also, do allow him to have a small amount of junk food ... meaning ... if he can have a really small portion every once in awhile ... he won't feel so starved for junk.
The most important think is to love him, reassure him and be as absolutely positive as possible. Maybe see if there is a program in your area for kids who are working to physical fitness goals (not necessarily overweight kids) ... alot of our schools here are having challenges to lose weight and get in shape ... it might him to be around others his age in the similar situation as he is in. Keep us posted on his progress!!!
Some days he does better than others. He's aware of the problem he is having, but he is not quite ready to give up somethings. I know it will come with time~age and maturity.
Chickiepoo -- yes, you're right ... that will come with maturity but also ... I wouldn't take everything away either. Even sweets are OK when eaten in moderation. It might for him to have just one bite of something sweet ... to curb that craving yet not throw on the pounds. I know that can be more difficult than dieting itself but once you gain control of that taking one bit of a "forbidden food" can curb those awful cravings.
I was such an overweight kid. My mom was pencil thin and just didn't get it. But she tried everything... diets, scol.ding, humiliation, and praise. But she never did the most simple thing... she never joined in activities with me to make it fun. I wasn't an only child but my sisters were much older than I was. Well, when I was 8-10 you want that hip bond and I just didn't have it.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not blaming my mom, but I do think if she'd have said... let's go to the park, or lets go for a walk and you can ride your bike. I don't think I'd have had 1/2 the weight problem I have today.
So that's my advice. Jump in there right along with him. It only takes 10-20 min a day. (((Hugs)))
My ex used to say things to me about my weight when we were around . It got to where certain wouldn't come around much at all. They were female and were skinny. He made them feel uncomfortable. Now, he's married to a woman who's shorter than me, has bigger boobs than me, is way more neurotic than I'd ever thought a person could be, and she's....yep....overweight!
It appears he just didn't like me. waah I'm so sad about that. LOL
I'm so sarcastic. Ok, so it did hurt at the time, that much I'll admit too.
My life is way better now. I'm more overweight than I was when I was married, but I am alot happier.
Now, if I could just keep my son active. Neither one of us were very active today.
My daughter and I went to the Y today and worked with a staff member to us with the machines worked out for 1 hour.
after that my daughter went to the show and instead of candy she had a healthy snack of nuts and diet coke
we both had half each of steak, some veggies and salad
there are to site south beach and ediets that I get with tips on how to lose weight and they also have recipes my daughter is making some of them herself
If you have a nice day tomorrow you and your son could go for a nice walk to a park
(Bradley 7/30/98) & Doodlebug 
(Scotty 5/4/01) offically ttc #3 
, those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives."
he asks for clothes. I don't mind he is doing great and now he is encouraging me in my weight loss. I hope I 
ed you with this. Keep me posted or PM me anytime.
apoo
of trying south beach that she went to the store with me today and choose tofu, fresh fruit, no bread
hip bond and I just didn't have it. 
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