I have a friend ( maybe not much longer) who insists that Ally (3 years old) should being going to pre-school. Ally is a very very active little girl, she cant sit still for a minute especially if she is bored with whatever is going on. She knows her abc's can count to 14(we are working to count to 20) knows all her shapes, her address ( working on telephone number) her full name and loves to color, draw, and make crafts with me. She just started dancing school and goes to Sunday school. I am a stay at home mom and I feel like I stay at home for a reason. Around this house its like a preschool and she gets to go other places to learn to be around others. Im afarid sending her to pre-school will just get her to far ahead and little miss wild thing will misbehave in kindergarten. So i guess my question is my friend right because she is starting to make me feel a tad guilty?
if she's learning all of that with you, why send her to a pre-school? She's only 3 and may end up learning more with you than at a pre-school anyway.
Your friend should stop pushing, be to honest
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I think she is probably learning enough from you. I sent my boys to preschool mainly for the socialization. Because around here, if they can't socialize in kindergarten, the schools hold them back.
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My son was also VERY active at the age of 3, I refused to put him in pre-school... he is now 4 and much more calmed down and mature, he goes to pre-schol this year and is doing great! Your Children dont have to go to school until they are in Kindergarten, Don't rush it if you dont have to... IMO, they should go to pre-school at the age of 4 or 5 depening on when their birthday is.... It really gets the ready for kindergarten... Not just book smart but socially..
I think that at 3 it is not a big deal at all. I do suggest putting her in a program next year even if it is only half day. This will her get used to school structure. You would be amazed at how they expect Kindergardeners to act now days. Being in PreK gives them a heads up on what is expected and such. Especially with active children. My son turned 5 in September and the school asked me to hold him back to PreK instead of putting him in Kindergarden because they said he wasn't mature enough. he still is having a lot of trouble sitting still but is making huge progress. If I had put him in Kindergarden he would have never made it.
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My 12 yr old was never in preschool.He had a hard time all through school until I decied(yes,I decided) to hold him back in the foruth grade.I know no preschool was a result of him being behind.At the time he was an only child and had not socialze alot with other kids.I blame me for his failures.I couldn't afford preschool for him.And in the area where I lived to get into headstart I had to take him and pick up.With my work schedule it wasn't possible.
My 5 yr old has never been to preschool either.I can't afford the cost.I have signed him for headstart.But him and his sister are both on a waiting list to get in.My 5 yr old is ready for school.He is pretty smart like amyyoho daughter.He picks up on things pretty quickly.So,I'm not worried about him.It's my 3 yr old that I worry about.She seems to learn at a slower rate like my 12 yr old did.
I would trust your own instint on what you thought was best.Does your daughter socialize with other children? Will she know someone in her cl*** when she starts kindergarten? I think those are a couple of questions to ask yourself too.
I must agree with others at 3 it's still fine to be at home.That is great that she knows all of that, and sending her other groups so she's learning to listen to a teacher & playing with others. At 4 I would send her to preschool to get her used to going everyday and plus that would give you a break in the day for some alone time( if she's the only kid). Is it the separation of you two that is worrying you or her?
Thanks for all the insight!!! The cost of preschool may not be a problem any more( al long as hubby gets this new job) however at least maybe headstart would be good for her. She does introduce herself to new kids and is a very very friendly girl! She is not afraid of anyone. However getting her used to a routine outside of the house sounds like a good !!! Again thanks and if anyone else still has a comment I would love to hear it.!!!1
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her get used to school structure. You would be amazed at how they expect Kindergardeners to act now days. Being in PreK gives them a heads up on what is expected and such. Especially with active children. My son turned 5 in September and the school asked me to hold him back to PreK instead of putting him in Kindergarden because they said he wasn't mature enough. he still is having a lot of trouble sitting still but is making huge progress. If I had put him in Kindergarden he would have never made it.
!!! Again thanks and if anyone else still has a comment I would love to hear it.!!!1
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